Some Days the Dragon WinsWe can do our very best with our relationships with people and something can happen that has a negative effect on them. The other person may cut us off and leave us wondering what happened. The problem is that we don't know what happened. We may reach out in love and still receive no response from that person. At some point we have to radically accept that there is nothing that we can do.
There are other dragon days. We may try very hard and get a job interview after a lot of rejections. We did our best in the interview and we left hopeful. Later we receive an email or letter that lets us know that we didn't get the job. Looking for work these days seems to be a long and winding road with few stops for interviews. Men derive a good part of their self esteem from having a job and doing well. What happens to them when they are jobless? What keeps them going day after day?
Perhaps it is just a small ember burning in their heats and they must blow on the coal in their hearts by making the best effort they can to find a job. Perhaps they must lower their expectations.
A few negative responses from a significant person in our lives. well intentioned,
may be very painful, especially if we haven't received many positive responses from others. They say that it takes ten positive responses to balance one negative response. I try to find good reasons to give others positive responses, and some times they are store clerks or strangers.. I know that people receive too many negative responses and on those days the Dragon wins.
Perhaps the metaphor serves us well. It seems to me that we need more dragon hunters, and less dragon days.
Bear
There are other dragon days. We may try very hard and get a job interview after a lot of rejections. We did our best in the interview and we left hopeful. Later we receive an email or letter that lets us know that we didn't get the job. Looking for work these days seems to be a long and winding road with few stops for interviews. Men derive a good part of their self esteem from having a job and doing well. What happens to them when they are jobless? What keeps them going day after day?
Perhaps it is just a small ember burning in their heats and they must blow on the coal in their hearts by making the best effort they can to find a job. Perhaps they must lower their expectations.
A few negative responses from a significant person in our lives. well intentioned,
may be very painful, especially if we haven't received many positive responses from others. They say that it takes ten positive responses to balance one negative response. I try to find good reasons to give others positive responses, and some times they are store clerks or strangers.. I know that people receive too many negative responses and on those days the Dragon wins.
Perhaps the metaphor serves us well. It seems to me that we need more dragon hunters, and less dragon days.
Bear
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